Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Helping out a homeless friend


I am so aggravated at a friend right now.  Wednesday he calls up crying and rambling on the phone that the owner of the house was throwing him out because the owner was selling the house.   We took him in so we could talk to him that night because my partner knows a lot about his situation and where he could go as a homeless person.  He was looking for something to drink so my partner said water.  I mentioned there is orange juice and apple cranberry juice.  He then spotted the milk and made it clear the he ‘loves’ milk.  It seemed that he didn’t eat anything and was eating stuff from the fridge and our cereal.  After a long time I told him the first thing he should do is get things done early and to start seeing people at 8.30am.

I told him the first thing he should do when he gets up to go to places like seeing his case manager (which is in Portland Oregon) and clinics around this area who could support homelessness and could provide temporary housing.

That morning I went to the fridge and the gallon of milk we bought a day and a half ago we nearly gone.  I asked what he was doing for the morning and he told me that he couldn't do anything until after 1pm.  I don't know any company or clinic or whichever where you have to wait until after 1pm, the day was nearly over by that time.  I told him that my partner had an appointment at noon and I needed to head to college to study.  Technically we couldn't keep him here.  We couldn’t afford to take on someone.

I had talked to him Friday and he was telling me that he chanced it by sleeping at the house where he was kicked out from where there was no electricity. I was throwing out questions to know how he was doing but he was ignoring all my questions.

Yesterday I asked him where he was staying and he told me at Pollys Adult Home but was outside using his laptop by the dumpster.  I was confused on what he was saying.  Trying to get as much information out of him, he suddenly jumps down my throat saying that he was homeless and has been spending the night outside in the cold.  But he never said that.  He stated that he was at the PAH, that was it.  But for some reason I wasn't too sure why he was using the electricity by the dumpster behind the building.  He kept saying that it was cold outside.  Yes I feel bad about his situation but I don’t have much care if he doesn’t care for himself.  Why should I care about someone else if they are not going to care for themselves?  All of a sudden he started to say how retarded I was and bitched out at me about his situation.

I said, “Dude, first off, I don't like or appreciate people calling names.  I find that very rude and obnoxious.  And saying retarded is a very childish name. Second off, I asked you from the beginning where are you staying and did you have a place to stay and you did state that you were staying at the Pollys and then said you were outside.”

Basically what I was trying to do was to get a clear picture of what his plans were going to be.  So I told him not to be jumping down my throat because he was pissed off because he was homeless.  I also told him that my partner and I did what we could to help him bout.  I then told him to read his emails because I had sent him VALUABLE INFORMATION to help him.  I don’t even know why I even bother when he was not even helping himself out.

My partner had given him valuable information the night we took him in for the night what he should be doing.  My partner and I were doing this so he could be prepared what he needs to be doing in that morning.  I mean, my mouth dropped when he told me that he couldn’t do anything after 1pm.  We were confused what he meant by that.  We don't know any place where people had to wait that late of the day to seek help, especially with people in his condition.  My partner knows it because he has been in his shoes plenty of times.

He could have done something that Friday before the weekend started so he could have a place to stay.  So I told him that it was his life and that I had my life and need to get back to my studies.  I just left it like that.  But he’s not going to come back here because for one we didn’t see any progress and two my partner told me that he didn’t want to deal with another person was like his ex.

It’s interesting how you help people out and they shit all over you.

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