I have been aware of the dangers of Robert and me:
- we have to watch out for what we say because she was a Christian
- she has been taking us both on appointments and shopping with the use of her vehicle and she can be brainless ie she may drive too close to the driver in front, switching lanes when she isn't suppose to.
- She used a hand towel that had been using
- I noticed that the back door has been opened a couple of times and she made it wasn't her. We never go out the back door. I normally keep the door in a way that you could open the door from the inside but after closing it, the door would lock on the outside. The button was always opened on the knob so both sides could be opened.
- She placed her coffee Thermos in the microwave for 2 minutes and started a fire
- She used our hand towel which we use for our faces and clean our bodies with by using Soft Scrub.
I was wondering why my face has been smelling like Soft Scrub everywhere I go. Then she told me that she has been using it for toilets and other cleaning areas. I was furious. She said she did not know but I think it is commonsense that you don't place bleached cloths on top of colored cloths (which our hand towel was). I don't even know why she was using the hand cloths in the first place for cleaning.
After Robert and I had a discussion about me speaking up since I don't really speak my mind, because I don' like to hurt people's feelings, I decided to speak my mind toward her and that when things started to get hostile. I started to get upset that I didn't want to have to deal with anything that came my way. And I had an appointment with my counselor and had canceled it. I had to remove myself
There was hostility between the caregiver and me. I felt very awkward about it and I suddenly felt uncomfortable her around especially her disrespecting me whenever Robert and I had a disagreement about something. She had nothing to do with our relationship. I didn't want to argue or disagreement with my partner as long as "the guest" as I put it. She said she wasn't a guest. I wasn't going to back down and told her that she was a guest and not going to have a discussion as long as she was around. Even after she left I was still quiet and didn't really want to talk for the evening.
Robert and I eventually talked because he really thought I was going to leave him. He has been hurt in the past. Everyone has been hurt in the past and that's just life and we have to find a way to cope and live through it. Even I have been hurt in the past.
So the outcome of it that we had to let her go, otherwise it would be continuously hostility and I didn't want to feel that I was in the wrong all the time because I wasn't. I didn't want to have to think something to happen and I refuse to allow someone like that to overpower me like that.
This situation nearly jeopardize our relationship and what will happen now. The only thing I could think of is just to talk to him about what will happen and not to worry about what will happen even though we as people say things when we are angry and upset.
I feel relieved that she is gone because I also didn't like how she was going through our files and documentation. Now we could be able to continue with our life.
Its funny because when I opened the front door to check the mail, the blanket that I had for her for Christmas was returned. That was okay showed where her morals were and very stubborn and immature. But lucky me, I have an offer for that particular blanket to sell it for $100.00. My friend wants it so it all turned out fine. I could use the money too.
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