Change of concerns

I am concerned about my mother.  My stepfather and her have to move at the end of the month.  She hasn't really looked since my sister has been doing all the looking.  Both my mother and my sister's family live in Connecticut.  Mom doesn't want to live in Danbury and there aren't any big apartments in Ridgefield.  So them both are going to stay with my sister for a while, which will be nice.  It would be awkward for my mother since she doesn't like my sister's husband because of his anger issues.  But we all have anger issues every once in a while, and he was nice enough to pay for their rents but cannot do it anymore which was why my mother and her husband has to move since they cannot afford the rent that is very high.

Since my mother is very picky, My stepbrother was going to buy a condo and said that they could move into the condo in NY.  Mom doesn't want to move to NY and again will continue to be depressed because that means she will be away from my sister and her kids which she has been going back and forth.  The condo will be an hour away.  I have a feeling she will not be happy.

That also changes EVERYTHING with Craig and my plans since we were going down to Connecticut to move to be closer to her since she isn't getting any younger, and also be closer to my sister and her family.  Now Craig and I may just stay in Vermont and get a small house somewhere.  I am a little upset because I wanted to be closer to the family rather than 5 hours away.

I know we have to think of a place to settle down in and now I am a little confused what to do and where to go.  If something happens to Craig, I will be all alone here in Vermont.  If we move down to Connecticut, at least I would be around family for support.  So I worry about this whole situation.

Stowe Vermont

Well last Saturday we bought a new vehicle in Laconia, New Hampshire.  We rented out a vehicle and had to drop it off down there.  Luckily it was next to the car dealership.  We thought we weren't going to get a vehicle but after bending some strings they helped us get a vehicle.

So we  decided to head over to Vermont again. This time we went to Stowe area to a B & B called Timberholm Lodge which was a gay friendly lodge.  First night we stayed put. It was a long drive and the GPS lost signal twice and ended up getting lost, so we were driving 6 hours.

During our stay we went to check out a house and it was nice property.  It would be nice to have that house.  But I think we will not get it since we don't plan on relocating until Springtime.  We would have to wait until Winter is over and then head over there.  At least we would have some money saved up.  We also checked out Waterbury, and Montpelier for a drive around.  Also had stopped by the Ben & Jerry's ice cream factory.  What was really beautiful is that we went out at 6 am to watch the Sunrise and it was beautiful.  Pity I didn't get to take pictures of that.

We had taken some walks too due to his diabetes as they were pretty high in the 300 range.  We were having a nice time when we had to call it an end.  My concerned was to drive back again for 4 1/2 hours.  I also fear of crashing or something like that.  

Northern Ireland or Vermont

Lately we have been talking about relocation.  He already knows that I want to move back home to Northern Ireland.  I call Ireland home because both parents are from there and all my relatives are there, even though I am born and raised in the United States.
Everything I think about Ireland and what it would feel like to be living there, I think about the things such as living in just outside the town like Claudy and having a little bungalow house or something, with a vehicle, settled down and living comfortably with our 3 cats.  He thinks it would be great to live in Ireland, but his concerns are with the illegal immigrants trying to get into England.  Also the 3 cats are a problem which we don't know if we could get the funds for them.  We only collected a small amount but that doesn't even cover rent right now.

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Everything that has been talked about has been a struggle and alot of stress upon us.  Well I'm scared myself on returning because my concerns about it is that I am wondering how I am going to continue my social security disability and wonder how that works with them.  I mean, I know I could bring we could bring both of our SSD over there.  Their system could be different.  I'm not sure.  Also wondering if he will get the treatments that he needs since he has to go once a month to IV fusion to help his immune system.  Also medications and housing, and a vehicle and possibly furniture, however there are places that are furnished.

We had been talking about Vermont here and there.  There are things that are already in place, like Section 8, and don't have to worry about our SSD being cut off.  Also we could get a small house possibly and also a vehicle.  I could also get my gym that I always wanted.  But at the same time I don't feel safe in the US for some reason the way I did with Northern Ireland.  I don't know why but I just do.

Trip to Vermont

So we decided to get away from Portland, Maine for a while and head over to Burlington,Vermont to see what that was like.  It was a nice get away, but a very long drive.  The hotel "Anchorage Inn" on Dorset Street wasn't that bad of a hotel.  Something simple nothing too fancy.

Before we left for Vermont there were things we needed to do such as getting him his passport photos, and going to the DMV to get his identification card.  Sad that he fell at the DMV and scraped his knee.  Manager was very nice to help out.  

It was only a couple of days we stayed in Vermont, which wasn't enough time to really know the place.  Why did we go there?  Well we are still undecided what to do with our moving situation.  Since it was a long drive the day we arrived I was so exhausted I didn't really want to do anything, so we just went next door to a Japanese restaurant called Hana.  Nice food there.

 

The next day we ended up buying an updated GPS, which turned out to be an easy to read one.  Afterwards we gone to Denny's for breakfast and then headed over to the Waterfront for a few hours.  We had to pay $8.00 to get in to the Waterfront Park, but that was fine.

It was just as well we brought his wheelchair for long days like that day because he wouldn't have the energy for his legs as he still has problems falling.

We noticed there was a very small beach where people could hang out and catch some sun.  There was a path along the Bay where people could walk and cycle.  I couldn't believe how hot it was that day.  Pity that he couldn't hold the camera up too well because of his wrists to take pictures so I had to stop so often to take a few pictures.  

It was such a peaceful area.  I would recommend this place if those who wish to visit Vermont and to check out the Waterfront.  I could had stayed there all day, but because I was getting dehydrated we didn't think about bringing bottle water, so we had to leave.  I could see myself returning back to Vermont.  As for relocating, I am still not sure as my heart is still on Ireland.  So it has been a big decision.

The next morning was going home.  Another long drive to return.  This time we took it straight through which was the scenic route.  It was nice to see the scenic route.  The drive took longer but it was the shortest way.  

We went through Littleton, New Hampshire and had to take a quick stop.  Not only going to the bathroom but my body was getting stiff from the drive so it was nice to take a walk around.  Craig thought he was able to walk over to the bathroom but had fell along the pathway.  That's when I thought he needed his walker to get to the bathroom.  He did scrape himself, just as well I brought first aid kit, which I am going to start bringing with me for now on everywhere we go.

Craig took several shots of me and each time he took it turned out blurred due to his hands.  He couldn't hold it up properly, so there was only one way to do this and set the camera on timer.  I was kind of getting frustrated because each time (anytime) he takes a picture turns out blurred so i thought screw it.    

It was nice to get back home.  We ended up doing a couple of things before returning the vehicle because the vehicle had to be returned the next day but we brought it back a day early to discover that we were ripped off.  It wasn't approximately $200 for everything, which she said was a good deal, instead it was almost $500 for the week.  So Craig thought he would never go through that company again meaning the one downtown rather the one by the airport.

To be honest enterprise on Marginal Way really did look trashy.  And the vehicle didn't look clean inside because there was a stain in the back seat of the car.  I smelled urine during the whole time we had the vehicle.  Never again we will go to that Enterprise.